Down But Not Out...

So initially I was going to write about the irony of thanksgiving.  How it was started by a bunch of immigrants with the aid of Native Americans arrived to this land and needed help to survive in America after escaping their homelands from religious persecution and were looking in general for a fresh start at freedom and life.  How the feast in essence, was about being grateful for these new friends, fresh start, and for simply surviving with what they already had. 

How it’s such a contrast from today, where America and many other nations in the world are now in political battles to exclude new refugees and immigrants to their lands and Thanksgiving night has given way to sales and black Friday, where folks show how ungrateful they are by spending ridiculous amounts of money on new merchandise and in some cases maiming and harming others just to get to these new items. 

But then I thought, naaa, that’s just to easy so why don't I write about something else.  So that’s just what I’m about to do.  I guess today I want to write about rejection, how it feels and what we do to overcome it.  Rejection comes in many forms.  It comes in the form of being tosses aside or disregarded by someone you love and desire, it comes in the form of being turned down by the job you really wanted, by that college you sought acceptance into, and the feeling can even come about from losing that big competition you trained and prepared for with such effort and sacrifice. 

So when we are rejected by that person or job or we lose that fight or battle what does it do to us?  I’m sure we all know.  When that person that you love so much tosses you away you feel crushed and devastated.  You wonder why you, your efforts and your heart weren’t simply enough for the other person. 

 Ali went down, even lost a fight to Frazier.  But he won 2 out of 3 and eventually regained his Heavy Weight title.  Keep fighting, you are worth it!

Ali went down, even lost a fight to Frazier.  But he won 2 out of 3 and eventually regained his Heavy Weight title.  Keep fighting, you are worth it!

You wonder how you’re going to get over the pain and constantly question the things that you never said or did and you question whether or not that person ever really cared or had other reasons for leaving or turning you down that they weren’t honest about revealing to you.  You wonder did they really value you as a person or were you just a hobby.  Your confidence takes a hit and your heart takes an even bigger one.  How does it feel when that job you interviewed for doesn't call you back or better yet you aren't even called in for the interview?  You start to wonder if what you know intellectually and how hard you work mean anything.  You begin to question if there’s anyone or anything out there that believes in you.  You wonder where your place is and begin to question your career path and dreams. 

When you trained so hard for that competition and you still lose you begin to wonder if you physically have the ability to do what you’ve worked so hard for.  On occasion doubt seems to creep in and you wonder if you're wasting your time and if your goal was a pipe dream.  I know, I’ve been there before, in each of these situations.  But what I figured out is you have to pick yourself up.  You have to believe in yourself and in your own value as a person and an asset.  You have to know and believe that even though that person, that job, or even that game that you lost doesn’t decrease your value.  You have to know that you are worth it, even if someone else can't see that you are.  You have to be your own advocate and your very own star player.  You have to believe in yourself even when no one else can or will.  You need the attitude of someone who cannot and will not be denied. 

You need to know that you deserve every bit of happiness and success as the next person.  You need to know that if you’ve worked hard enough, loved enough, and cared enough that you damn well have the right to seek what you desire.  And once you get to that point, you walk with your chin up and with the knowledge that one day your time will come.  You walk with the knowledge that the job that passed you up wasn't ready for you and hired someone else that isn’t to your caliber.  You walk with the knowledge that the person that left you, made you feel tossed aside, really didn't want you and in the end it’s better to not be with them than to be with someone who deep down didn't want you enough to fight for you, keep you, or love you no matter what. 

You walk with the knowledge that the game you lost, simply gave you lessons to win the next one.  So that the next game you play you are more prepared and have a better game plan the next time around.  So yeah that’s it, that’s what it is.  How do you deal with rejection?  You take it on the chin like a champ, you shake it off, you put your gloves up and make sure you can make it to the end of the round.  And when you go back to your corner, you take a deep breath, take a drink of water then you get back out in the ring and have at it again.  Why?  Because you are worth it, you are worth that much.  And you have to believe that about yourself. 

 Toss me aside, knock me down, but I will get back up and stand again.  

Toss me aside, knock me down, but I will get back up and stand again.