An Open Letter...

I spent Saturday night with my fifteen month old nephew and had him stay over night, and boy was I not ready for what this little dude had in store for me.  He was up all night, three and four in the morning wanting to play around despite numerous pleas for him to go to sleep and having all the lights shut off in the house.  And for the few, maybe three hours that he did sleep, all you felt was punches and kicks all over the place.  Needless to say, I got my but handed to me Saturday night.  But you know what, that’s what uncles are for. 

 I held you when you were a polly wog.

I held you when you were a polly wog.

And I was proud to do it, even though I could pass out from exhaustion right now.  What I do want to do is write an open letter to this little guy.  So that when he gets older, if by chance he were able to find this and read it or god forbid something happened to me he should know how his uncle feels about him.  So here it is.....

Ty’Lee if you should find this one day and read it, know that your uncle loves you very much.  I want you to always keep that playful spirit and smile that you have.  You are such a good kid, you don’t whine, you cry very little and you can tell that you have joy within your heart.  Every moment seems to be a happy moment for you and something to smile about. 

Never lose that young fella because as you get older you will find that life will throw some twists and turns at you that will make it hard to smile and laugh.  You will come across people who will try to steal your joy and for some sad reason or another, not be able to smile as much as you or find things to laugh at as much as you do.  Always remember to stay strong and that sometimes to walk the righteous path means that you will have to walk alone.  Remember that during those times that you feel alone, it only means that you have the strength within yourself to carry on.  Always, I mean always be respectful to your elders.  Look after my sister, your mom, at all times. 

There will be a time when you won’t like what she has to say to you or times when you will be upset that she won’t let you do things but know that she’s only doing what she thinks is best for you.  She loves you dearly and I can tell you that her every breath is for you and everything she does is with you in mind.  There will be times when I will also tell you things you will hate and you’ll probably wonder why I’m being so tough on you.  Well I’ll tell you, it’s because you are a precious little boy who I expect to grow into a strong, noble young man.  I expect you to make smart choices and during those times that you don’t (you’re bound to make a mistake because we all do), I’m going to be there to jump your case and guide you back on track. 

 Never stop smiling dude.

Never stop smiling dude.

I want you to know that whatever you do as you grow older, whether it be good, bad or better, that you can tell me anything and I’ll do my best to help you succeed in life.  Success in life will ultimately be your decision.  It’s something that you will have to want for yourself no matter how much the family wants it for you.  The question is do you have what it takes to go for it as well as know what success is for you as an individua?  Remember that everyone’s version of success is different.  Don’t measure yourself by the feats of someone else.  In other words, eat what’s on your plate little fella and don’t worry about what’s on anyone else’s. 

Know that I don't care what you do in life as long as it’s what you want to do and you aren't harming yourself or anyone else in the process.  Know that life is to be lived, don't just exist.  Life is to be experienced, but do everything in moderation dude because even good things can be bad for you if you have too much of it.  And last but not least know this, I was there with you in the beginning, and I’ll be there with you until the end no matter when that day comes.  Your uncle loves you man, your entire family does.  Strive to be the best that you can everyday and every morning that you wake up you need to ask yourself, “Am I loving or hating today?” and always choose love.  Take it easy boss and know that I’m always watching.